Dare to Compare Not Always the Best Choice

I recently heard from a good friend of mine. Over the past ten years, his career has blossomed. He has the job he always wanted, with very little compromise.

Meanwhile, I have not been so lucky. In 2008 I was diagnosed with mental illness and it was deemed that because of the extreme nature of my disability I would no longer be able to work a full-time position.

You see, I have good days and bad days. On the good days, I have flashes of the old me wherein I can accomplish things very few others have the talent, intelligence, or drive to succeed at. On the bad days, I am in a corner crying for hours on end or talking to imaginary people. Or worse. Traditional workplaces don’t really tolerate these kinds of challenges.

I am happy that my friend has succeeded in life. I truly am. But in comparison, some would say that in the eyes of the world I am a failure. And that depressed me.

I took this quandary of emotions with me to my therapist appointment. In her observation, it seems that my self-esteem isn’t what it once was. I am no longer the cocky SOB who once was on the cusp of greatness.

My therapist offered up the notion that despite my disabilities, I have accomplished a lot. And, perhaps those accomplishments are just as meaningful as those of my successful friend because of the very fact that I have done them despite fighting multiple debilitating disabilities.

Since my diagnosis in 2008, I have tried not to let life pass me by.

As a writer, I have had two books published since 2008: Blood Lust (a Hollywood vampire novel) and Unbecoming Travolta (a memoir). Including my 2002 Amazon Top 10 Recommended My Fractured Life novel, that makes three books published in total. Further, my screenplays have been finalists in several prestigious screenwriting competitions.

As a singer and songwriter, I have released my third album in 2019 – Man on Fire.

As an actor, I have shot several films and starred in a number of highly touted stage productions that earned me two Best Actor nominations in the annual Broadway World Theatrical Awards.

As a communicator, I host a popular weekly radio show focused on the entertainment industry.

And, as a theatrical creator I have founded and grown It’s Showtime Theatre of Huntley.

When I look at those accomplishments on paper, I see where my therapist is coming from. There’s a lot of meat on those bones. But there’s a difference between how the logical mind and the emotional mind process things.

A part of me will always be the child that was told he was fat, ugly, stupid, and untalented. A part of me will always mourn being abandoned by my father at the age when a boy needs one the most.  A part of me will always carry a dark scar on my soul from being molested – once by a family friend and twice by strangers.

Those traumas aren’t conducive to developing a good self-esteem. So, my natural inclination is always going to be to see myself as unworthy of greatness. With that kind of predisposed mindset, I will always struggle to give myself credit for my accomplishments.

My friend who has his dream job is a great person. He is smart, creative, loyal, and moral. I applaud his success, as I know he would mine had the shoe been on the other foot.

But maybe, I’m not the disappointment that my subconscious says I am.  Maybe some of the things I’ve been able to do despite my challenges are impressive in their own right. Maybe, at least, I get points for trying.

Comparing yourself to others is not always the best thing to do. Instead, focus on your positives. That’s a good lesson to learn. I think I’m going to have to study that lesson a little more.

I can’t change the fact that I am disabled. My mind doesn’t work the way that others’ minds do. But I can continue to strive to be the best that I can be – not the best in comparison to others, but the best in comparison to myself.

And who knows? Maybe I can even be an inspiration to other disabled people – people with challenges like mine, or even greater than mine. There is no reason a disabled person can’t be a role model.

Peace. Love. Trust.




The Lone Ranger Rides Again

As a child growing up on a farm, I spent my Sunday mornings watching reruns of the classic The Lone Ranger television series that originally aired from 1949 to 1957 on ABC.

The Lone Ranger quickly became my idol. I would act out my fantasies of being the Lone Ranger around the farm.

At one point, despite being only 5 years old, I took to jumping out of the hayloft to land on the farm animals below and ride away, the way The Lone Ranger actor Clayton Moore would jump off house roofs onto trusty steed Silver.

Halloween costume? You guessed it – The Lone Ranger. School lunch box? Also, The Lone Ranger. Birthday cake? Yup. The Lone Ranger.

I eventually became a child actor along the West Coast. My first professional role came at the age of 9 when I played Tiny Tim in a televised adaptation of A Christmas Carol that aired on CBS affiliate KOIN.

I worked steadily as an actor, first as a child, then as an adult. But my dream was always to grow up to play the Lone Ranger.

We all have heroes. Some kids want to grow up to be police officers or professional basketball players. I wanted to be the Lone Ranger.

Fast forward to 2019. Producer and director Jeff Cook learned of my fascination with The Lone Ranger and cast me to play the iconic character in the radio play The Lone Ranger and the Canyon of Danger.

Cook’s Radio Parody Playhouse airs on Huntley’s 101.5 FM and is available as a podcast at http://huntleyradio.com/hcr/radio-parody-playhouse/.

Produced by Film Stripped Productions, Cook’s Radio Parody Playhouse specializes in taking public domain stories from the Golden Age of Radio and lovingly re-scripting them as comedies. Cook also created the web series Upstaged and regularly directs at area theaters.

Jeff Cook is tremendously talented. He has a unique brand of humor that really resonates with the public.

Other titles Radio Parody Playhouse has made available as podcasts include Superman, The Shadow, War of the Worlds, and The Maltese Falcon, among others. Cook uses the best local talents to record each episode.

Radio is a special medium – very different than film, television, or the stage, because you have to convey everything with your voice. There is no body language to help convey the story.

As to if Cook and I will reunite to bring The Lone Ranger back for additional episodes of Radio Parody Playhouse, I can say that I would love to revisit the character.

If the public wants me back, it’d be my honor to make sure The Lone Ranger rides again.

In the meantime, I encourage you all to listen to The Lone Ranger and the Canyon of Danger at: http://huntleyradio.com/hcr/radio-parody-playhouse/.

Peace. Love. Trust.